I think the thing I hate more than anything else is Authoritarians. The first authoritarian I knew was my father. He grew up very poor and in the streets. He used to tell the story of how once when he had a piece of bread trying to keep it in his mouth as long as possible by chewing it over and over. His mother had come over to America from Italy leaving her other children behind and taking only one son with her, my father. Was he on the streets because she worked? I never asked questions. I just heard that one story of how hungry he was. He only went to school up to the fifth grade.
My mother was the third of 8 children. From the little I gleaned of her childhood her mother used her to take care of the younger children. My grandmother’s first child was a son – a son was very important in an Italian family. Her second child was my aunt who had red hair, again something prized in my mother’s Italian family. Seems my mother – my grandmother’s third child in three years – my grandmother was 15 when she married - was the “tired of this” child who always thought of herself as ugly. At 14 my mother was working in a coat factory.
My father, it seems, was attracted to my mother because in his eyes she seemed like she, a home girl, could provide the family he always wanted. She was attracted to my father because he told her – marry me and you will see the world – he could provide the escape she always wanted.
There marriage seemed one big disappointment. They seemed opposites in every way. The traveled to Arizona from New York where my father took my mother for 4 days, where they thought they might live. My mother told the story of my father becoming homesick, saying he didn’t like being on a street where he never saw a person he knew. So they went back to New York where they lived unhappily ever after.
The thing I couldn’t stand about my father was his authoritarianism, and if I knew the word in my childhood - his Narcissism. There was a lot of screaming and yelling in my house and times when during arguments my father would turn violent against my mother. To me he always treated her as a kind of object.
I think I learned what love is from a book – Erich Fromm’s, The Art of Loving. And I think I learned what a relationship was from Martin Buber: I-Thou. That was relationship. I-It that was what I saw in growing up with my parents. Two disappointed people taking their disappointment out on each other.
From living with my father, I think, I grew to hate Authoritarians more than anything else. “You didn’t shut the oven off, how stupid can you be,” was how he talked to her. He was the boss. He was always right. And what he wanted was mostly what the family got.
In today’s Democrats I see I-It all over again. It seems they are incapable of a relationship with Trump or his supporters.
“If I-It is our predominant attitude, we live a life of monologue absorbed in our own desires and concerns, only concerned with the others insofar as they are useful to us,” I wrote in my book, The Search for Being describing Martin Buber’s philosophy. That’s the Democrats Today to me, absorbed in their desires and concerns – incapable of dialogue – talking about the insensitivity, moral inferiority of the opposition – mistaking their maps of reality as the territory.
“In a relationship of being,” I wrote in discussing Buber’s philosophy, “two people are genuine and affirm each other.” Deplorables, Crazy, Narcissistic and the list goes on. They are right and Trump is wrong. Affirmation of Trump or his supporters – a joke. They don’t have the slightest idea of what Trump’s personality type is – Extraverted Sensing Thinking Perceiving Type and criticize him for traits common to all his personality type.
“Being is found in the between, in the middle ground,” I wrote in my book of Buber’s philosophy, “wherein we make a response to that which addresses us, said Buber. I make the other present by seeing her as unique, as different from me, not as an object of my thought, but rather I try to know her concretely. Nothing conceptual interferes. No categorizing. No labeling. All speech within ceases in I-
From the Democrats we have the opposite: Labeling. Categorizing. Believing their maps of reality are the territory. No wonder the word “relationship” has disappeared from our political life vocabulary.
“In I-Thou relationship there is real listening and real speaking. People surprise one another. There is newness, the unrepeatable, making our response impossible to prepare beforehand.”
I hated the Talking Points Administration of Obama. The Talking points you would hear Obama and then Hillary say in instances like Benghazi. Trump may be crude, at times, but his speech is more genuine. Unlike Hillary, who as a Presidential candidate would spend stretches of time inaccessible to the press, Trump seems always available for a comment whether on a plane or going from here to there. Unscripted. I’ll take crude over talking points any day.
From my chapter on Buber – my go to guy for what a real relationship is: “Even when I disagree with him, I still affirm his right to become what he will become. I accept him for who he is. I understand being is for itself. I can only enter into relationship with it.”
I will never accept the domination the Democrats seek to impose on society – telling us what it is okay to say, to think, to be. I will never accept living in a Stepford America. No one should ever make an “It” of another person.
“In I-Thou relationship I am willing to be open, to freely communicate my being to the other. I don’t have to say everything that’s on my mind. I just can’t let seeming creep in. ‘To yield to seeming,’ Buber said, ‘is man’s essential cowardice – to resist it his essential courage.’’’
A world of seeming, a Stepford America, is what the Democrats seem to want, a country of people afraid to say what they really feel and think because it will offend the tyrannical Democrats like the Squad and where you’ll easily be labeled a racist or a fascist.
“In each particular Thou, Buber believed, we glimpse God.”
In today’s America the Democrats would not have you speak from your inner sense, speak from your spirit, but from the script they have written for you. They won’t let people live by their own values – but insist they must live by the Democrat’s values or be shamed, labeled deplorables. They won’t let you think your own thoughts, but demand you adopt their thoughts about what is right and wrong. Climate change – the discussion is closed one MSNBC host declared.
“Buber believed to the extent we respond to our own Thou, our own nature we live in the spirit.” The Authoritarian Democrats would deprive us of living from our own spirit. Don’t be Inner Directed, be Outer Directed is there alienating message. We will tell you how to behave, what to think, what to feel. Lose yourself is their message.
“The I of I-It is different than the I of I-Thou, Buber said. It sets itself apart from being and speaks from the ego.” God made man free and, to me it seems, the Democrats in their ego seek to impose chains on us – mental chains. You are no longer free to say what you think, to feel what you feel, to do what you think is right. They now will control your life and the lives of all Americans.
The Democrats seek to impose repression. Banish these thoughts from your conscious life. Don’t discuss them, never say them out loud.
“Moral decisions, Buber held, are not easily made. It is never easy or simple to know the right thing to do. Decisions could only be made by looking at the particular demands of each concrete situation.”
The Democrats disagree. Moral decisions are easy according to them and they will tell you what they are. No discussion, no thinking, necessary.
“The forces of the soul are measured, Buber said. We take a leap of faith and direct our energies to a certain path. We learn to live,” Buber said, ‘with holy insecurity.’ There is no moral program, Buber believed, that would save us from walking the narrow ridge. We make truly moral decisions only after much struggle and searching.”
A human being to be a human being must be active, not the passive plaything of any political party or movement. To be human we must live by values we have thought a lot about. We must feel what we authentically feel. We must say what is in our heart and never let any other person or group tell us what to value or what to feel or what to think or what to do. We can have laws in a society, but not domination by those who would take our freedom away from us.
Democrats think they can force an I-Thou society upon us because they don’t have the slightest idea what I-Thou, a life of being, a human life, really is.
I think their Authoritarianism should be opposed.
To me Domination is just as bad as sexual abuse or racial prejudice. It kills a person's soul. One of the first books I ever read before I wrote The Search For Being was entitled, Going Sane. Many years later I wrote this:
Democrats: The Free Stuff/Open Borders/ Big Government/Ever Bigger UnAccountable Administrative State/ We Love Our MOBBING Intel Agencies Party
Hold The Democrats Accountable on Election Day
1. Democrats have abandoned the cause of Civil Liberties. Obama let the unconstitutional surveillance programs which included Government Gang Stalking/MOBBING of the Bush Administration go forward. The Democrats have abandoned the Civil Liberties stands of Ted Kennedy and Russ Feingold and have actually embraced our out-of-control intelligence agencies. Instead of investigating them, they endlessly investigate Trump who a substantial part of the country support.
2. Democrats are have abandoned the First Amendment. They have stood against Free Speech on campuses labeling opposition speech - hate speech - to silence it. They have MOBBED members of the opposite party. They have permitted their Storm Troopers, Antifa, reminiscent of the Brown Shirts of the Nazis, to physically attack people who oppose their political views. They have repeatedly tried to use fear and shame to silence opposition.
3. Democrats have encouraged open borders. Their policies are responsible for an uncontrollable flood of illegal immigrants coming across our borders. While Republicans have tried to get control of illegal immigration, Democrats have espoused policies that encourage it.
The result will be an extraordinary strain on social services since the majority of those crossing the border are poor. Their policies like adding illegal immigrants to the roles of Medicaid and Medicare will result in extraordinary wait times since the patient load of doctors will increase without increasing the number of doctors.
While Trump’s policies have resulted in an uptick in wages, increasing the number of illegal immigrants will depress wages for those whose wages are already at the lowest rungs of the economic latter.
Instead of working on better infrastructure, the Democrat policies are increasing the population which will further strain the old infrastructure we have. It will increase competition for housing in states like California where that is already a problem.
4. Since Obama, Democrats have embraced the Globalist policies of the New World Order. They have used spies from other countries to gain a political advantage over Trump. The policies of Obama took us further toward a Police State. They have embraced our out-of-control Intelligence Agencies rather than advocate more accountability, more transparency, and investigating abuses.
5. Since the candidacy of Hillary Clinton, Democrats have frequently sided with the Neocons on Foreign Policy issues. They have berated Trump’s attempts to create Peace through strength. They have criticized his attempts to open talks with North Korea. They have criticized his attempts to hold Iran responsible for sponsoring terrorism. They have made attempts for better relations with Russia impossible.
6. Many Democrats now openly embrace socialism. A majority of the people see Government as a problem, yet Democrats have plans to increase its reach, its power, and its control over our lives, to increase its economic power.
For these reasons and more, I think Independents such as myself should support Republicans in the next election to repudiate groups such as Antifa, to repudiate the War on the First Amendment, to repudiate the disrespect for the rule of law, including our immigration laws and law enforcement, to repudiate a continuation of Globalism and the Police State it has wrought, to repudiate a dismantling of our institutions, to repudiate the “Resist” Movement which wouldn’t abide by the results of our electoral process.
We need to stand up for the First Amendment, for the Constitution, for peace instead of continuous war, for programs like Medicare for those who have paid into it for a lifetime, and for a quality life for our own citizens that includes a rational immigration policy – not open borders.
I-It relating is totally subjective. The I looks at everything in relation to their self. Their desires and concerns are a barrier to real meeting. There is contrivance and hypocrisy. Imposition characterizes I-It Relating as the I tries to impose their views, their wants on the other.